Most of us want to change something in our lives. Even when we find ourselves in a comfortable situation there is always something that could be better: ‘if only this would happen, then… !’
But have you ever really thought it through, what it is, that you’re longing for and find so hard to get?
Change doesn’t mean to add something new to your life.
I’m going to give it away right now: change will not happen by adding to the ‘things’ you already have in your life, it is to let go of that what is holding you back to make the shift, which is a matter of shifting the perception!
And that is why we find it so hard to do. If it would only be something we have to add to what we own, it would be easy. We’re already good at adding things, buying things, learning new skills, watching youtube tutorials, listening to another audio book or podcast, merely consuming new information: Edu-taining is the new word! And yes, great, we’re expanding our world with these new acquisitions, but do they bring the shift we want?
I like to prove my point by the result: if this procedure of acquiring new things would change your life, and you’re very good at it already, but you find it hard to get out of a habit, i.e. an eating pattern, becoming sober, a non-smoker, a plant-based eater, a get-up-in-the-morning-doing-yoga-every-day sort of fit person (or going for a run), you name it…, then obviously this strategy is not working for you to make a real shift.
Ok, what other options are there? Maybe the shift happens if something has been taken away from your lifestyle rather than added to it? So for example you want to stop drinking alcohol and therefore you don’t buy any booze any more, and voila! You have changed into a non-drinker. Well that could work for say 5 days, but once Friday night comes around, you start to make exceptions, and before you know it you’re back to the old drinking pattern. Apparently no shift has happened. What now?
There is a third possibility: things stay the same, they’re neither added nor removed from your current life-style, but you can change your perception! Try this: instead of cleaning out your fridge of unhealthy foods, close your eyes, take the magical 3 breaths (the ones from the first blog post), and see yourself as being healthy. There’s nothing wrong with this body. Everything is in its right place, right now. Even if thoughts come up like: but I have this problem,… let them pass. That’s not the point here. You are here. That’s all that matters. Call this healthy, regardless if you think you weigh too much or not enough or you are burdened by a disease, see yourself as healthy and totally ok as you are.
And then change your perspective, don’t look at your body from an health or ascetic point of view, but as a vehicle to sustain life and help others. How about the animals? Would you like to help them, with this body, as it is? Then that’s what you can do: see yourself as someone who doesn‘t contribute to the suffering of farm animals and who buys only plant-based foods, cruelty free products for cleaning, cosmetic,… Love your body in the state it is in as the perfect tool to do this, it takes you shopping, makes the decisions to help animals, and inevitably becomes more and more healthy, just as a side effect of the shift in your perception.
There is always a higher calling behind what you think you want to change. Shift your perception and see what truly lies behind your desire. A representative in a family constellation VIRTUAL workshop could help you see your issue from another perspective.
Enjoy your day!