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My Father’s Eyes…

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Who doesn’t know this catchy Eric Clapton song from 1998? I use to play this song in my family constellation workshops to help the client to make peace with his father after he has lost the connection to him, often through separation of the parents when he was a child.

Either the situation at that time or one of the parents doesn’t allow for the relationship between the son and the father to continue in a harmonious way. This can cause great suffering in the child, which often turns into anger towards his father in later years.

Finding what mends…

These deep in the soul of the son embedded emotions of anger and judgement against the father can come from an accusation that the father left him or the child takes over the emotion of his mother of anger, grief, hurt, insecurity, or shame when the father left the family.

In a family constellation this dynamic clearly shows when the representative of the son isn’t able to look at the representative of his father. Or the father isn’t able to make contact with the son out of feelings of having failed, shame, being judged, being excluded and unloved.

What is the solution here? An experienced and well trained facilitator in the New Family Constellation method of Bert Hellinger would not force the representatives of the son or father to make contact against the will of the represented family members. Rather, the facilitator has to add what’s missing (or better the one person that is missing) to the constellation to find what mends the relationship and what brings relief to their souls.

In these cases, I choose another participant of the workshop and places him/her a few steps behind the father: he/she is representing his father, the grandfather of the son. I then ask the father to turn around and to look at his father while I play the song:

Sailing down behind the sun
Waiting for my prince to come
Praying for the healing rain
To restore my soul again
Just a toe rag on the run
How did I get here?
What have I done?
When will all my hopes arise?
How will I know him?
When I look in my father’s eyes
My father’s eyes
Then the light begins to shine
And I hear those ancient lullabies
And as I watch this seedling grow
Feel my heart start to overflow
Where do I find the words to say?
How do I teach him?
What do we play?
Bit by bit, I’ve realized
That’s when I need them
That’s when I need my father’s eyes
Then the jagged edge appears
Through the distant clouds of tears
I’m like a bridge that was washed away
My foundations were made of clay
As my soul slides down to die
How could I lose him?
What did I try?
Bit by bit, I’ve realized
That he was here with me
And I looked into my father’s eyes

Eric Clapton 1998

If you look closely at the lyrics of this song they’re wrapping up the dynamic behind a broken father/son relationship. Through the vibration of the music these words sink into their souls beyond time and space and help to break the ice between grandfather and father which gives way for the father to reconnect with his son (the prince in the song).

At the end of the family constellation all 3 generations experiencing the Flow of Love and the heart to heart connection again and the client feels a great relief like a heavy burden has been taken off his shoulders. He now is able to let more freedom and happiness into his life, feeling strong again with the soul-support of his father and grandfather.

Hari Om to our fathers and sons!
Maia

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  • Thank you so much for today, I was really buzzing after the workshop, I felt like jumping and hugging everyone that came my way.
    Anna I.

  • I have been attending many family constellations and Maia is an extraordinary gift to New Zealand. It is such as honour collaborating and supporting her work. With many years of experience she is an amazing facilitator and very well educated by the master Bert Hellinger. I highly recommend this healing modality to everyone.

    Alejandra F.
  • I met Maia two years ago while I was going through a big transformation in my life. Thanks to this healing modality, I have been able to heal deep wounds in my family system and to connect and received the love from my direct family and all my ancestors. I have done both ways, present and virtual workshops with Maia, and found that both of them work perfectly and are equally powerful. For me it is great that we now have more flexibility to attend. I will be forever thankful to Maia for making me reconnect from love to my family, specially with my mum. Thank you Maia for holding this amazing healing space.
    Rocio G.

  • I came to Family Constellations with a deep curiosity — something in me knew there was truth here. Every session brought a quiet yet profound shift: pain, guilt, even shame began to dissolve. There was a peace I couldn’t explain, only feel.

    Training with Maia was a turning point. Her presence, shaped by decades of study and devotion, brought steadiness and trust. Through her guidance, I experienced not only personal healing, but healing that touched my family and ancestors too. What stood out most was the grace of the morphogenetic field and the teachings on the Orders of Love — invisible forces that reorder what’s been burdened, and return us to belonging. I am deeply grateful to Maia for working with such clarity, compassion, and depth. The work changed me. Words can’t fully express my gratitude — only the peace I now carry can.
    Virna M.

  • At first I was concerned that online Family Constellation sessions would probably not work well, or at least be considerably less effective than sessions in person with Maia. But what I found was the online group energy was just as strong as before, and my personal experiences were just as insightful and just as healing for me as in previous sessions. In fact in some cases, I felt the energy was even stronger.

    I feel it is extremely important though when the sessions are online that the facilitator is especially experienced in guiding Family Constellations. We are blessed that Maia is such a facilitator. Thank you Maia. Love

    John J.
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    Alex B.

  • Having done both group and private Family Constellation sessions online I can say that they are both as effective as sessions in person. To my surprise I found that the group sessions worked even better online. Being alone in my own home was familiar and comfortable. Perhaps I was less self-conscious, or less distracted. Whatever the reason, we were all in agreement that the virtual format was more intense. Both as a character and as a watching participant it was less like a performance and more of a group conversation. More intimate, more of a collaboration in spirit.

    Maia has a flexible attitude of exploration that makes it easy to trust her instincts, and go for the journey, set up for enquiry, being confident that it will always be worth the trip. The resulting resolutions brought powerful and meaningful outcomes in every case.

    Kate S.
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    I am very grateful for your teaching, providing a space to safely tackle generational trauma and your tranquil approach.
    Claudia D.
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  • I am grateful for Maia's guidance in this continuous learning at the school of life, for I have applied what she taught to my own family system, improved all interrupted reaching out movement with my parents, siblings and deceased ancestors through her skilful experience. Thank you for your strength, gentleness, deep intuition and passion to share. I will honor your love by living the best version of myself.
    Meilinda S.

  • My first Family Constellation workshop. I can tell Maia is a deeply tuned-in spiritual being, with her feet on the ground and great wisdom to compliment her considerable and lucid intelligence. Friends had recommended Family Constellations as a complimentary modality to the Hakomi psychotherapy I have graduated in, and it seems Maia is one of the most (if not the most) experienced and trained facilitator. It was an intense day! Quite different from anything else I've tried. Beautifully conducted, clearly explained, and conducted in an embodied, interactive way that catered to my individual concerns and outlook. I'll definitely be trying this again. Amazing group process - powerful but lighthearted, fun and comfortable.

    James K.

  • The morning after my first family constellation workshop with Maia I woke up with new eyes. Everything looked different, more vibrant and alive. I suddenly had no need to spend hours scrolling through social media and posting about stuff, it felt meaningless and like a waste of time. Instead I went in the garden and looked after my veggie patch. It was so peaceful. Thank you for this profound experience which opened my heart and my eyes to what is really important in life.

    Halie G.
  • Since beginning family constellation work with Maia, there has been a marked improvement in my family's relationships. This has been experienced not only by myself, but on a wider familial scale. I have watched dynamics slowly and gently change for the better and there is a clear sense of more space and capacity for everyone to move in different, healthier directions and ways of relating. Prior to this work, I was not on speaking terms with any of my immediate family. We struggled to speak without animosity and tension taking over the interaction. It was awful. With this work, we have been able to build our relationships through phone calls, and even had a small visit with one another recently. We enjoyed each other's company and it was the most peaceful interaction we have had in recent memory. On a personal level, I have experienced a greater sense of peace, health and well being. I have watched my brother and father begin to form a bond they struggled to build before, my dad is finally beginning to see possibilities for himself and he is exploring them. My mom is also working on her own personal development in areas she has always wanted to, but felt unable to, while my brother is branching out bravely into areas he never thought possible in his personal and professional life, as am I. This work has been able to free each of us in ways unique to each person, allowing us to delve into areas we want to work on and find forward momentum and progress- whereas before it felt no matter how much therapy or work was done, some things were hidden or muffled and solutions to growth, progress and development, were frustratingly hidden from view or ineffective no matter how much work we each were doing. It feels that now, each individual can bloom and thrive in the unique ways each of us most needed and our entire family unit is becoming healthier as a result. There's still more to do, but I feel we are headed in a wonderful direction with the support Constellation Therapy has offered.
    Michele B.

  • I’ve completed several online Family Constellations with Maia and, like in-person constellations, I’ve been blown away by their power. In fact, there seems to be something particularly strong in the connection when it’s done online. The healing is absolutely as profound as in person and Maia skilfully facilitates the process with awareness and compassion. I highly recommend it.

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    I have been in her Family Constellation workshops and latly her online workshops - her online group sessions have proven to be really fantastic. You can certainly receive the benefits of being part of a group dynamic and be constellated from your own home.

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  • It is amazing how immediately and authentically we are able to see the heart of the issues that emerge within the family dynamic in family constellations facilitated by Maia. I've learnt a huge amount about myself each time I have been.

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