Peace is just the beginning part three

Mind & Soul, Published / 3 May 2020 by Maia

In the last blog post we found out that even if we desire to be at peace it’s not necessarily happening, because the mind doesn’t cooperate with our intention. Someone else is holding the reins to the mind and wants to create drama in your life over and over again.

So let’s have a closer look at this imposter, who is it, where does it come from and why is it staying with you so closely? It’s going by a lot of different names, I would like to call it the second mind or the conditioned mind.

The second mind

In the first 7 years of your life the mind is in a so-called Theta state, in which it absorbs the signals from the environment without having a filter to decide if that is what you acutally want to live by for the rest of your life or not.

This filter (consciousness, or on a physical level the frontal lobe of the brain)comes into play when you turn 8 years old. In Theta, one is conditioned by the circumstances one is born into. This is a fantastic trait of nature to ensure the survival of the human race in any environment and it opens the possibilities to change and evolve with the demands of the world the baby is born into within only 7 years. So by default this is a good thing.

The problem arises when the environment is not defined by peace, but by being at un-ease or dis-ease. The child absorbs this behaviour which is creating drama over and over again from the parents, the peer group, the wider family, in school, church, on TV, you name it…

Once the child is grown up and wants to make conscious choices as an adult, i.e. to be at peace rather than creating drama, the conditioned mind kicks in and takes over the reins and sabotages every effort towards the new paradigm. Simply because that’s what it is used to, and therefore, it thinks that this is the right behaviour to play it safe.

So how do we take over the reins of the mind again that enables us to make concious choises which contradicts the conditioned mind? We will go through some options in the next blog. Until then, kia kaha (stay safe)… TBC

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