The cases of clients with autoimmune diseases coming to a family constellation in search for help have been growing lately. Recently, with the latest case, I started to see similarities in the different Family Systems which seem to be the cause of an autoimmune disease. We are talking here mainly about Arthritis, Psoriasis and Dermatitis.
Can Family Constellation help these clients when traditional and alternative therapies fail to deliver results?
The answer is YES. Maybe not in every case, but often enough to say it is worth trying.
And why not? The family constellation has no unwanted side-effects, so no risks are involved when looking at the soul-cause of these diseases at a family constellation workshop.
Following are 3 examples from my practice as a systemic and energy coach and family constellation facilitator where the client wanted to look at an autoimmune disease:
A client had Psoriasis for 20 years, all over the body, and nothing has worked to make it go away. It was so severe that she had to wear long pants and long sleeve shirts to cover the damaged skin . She came to my family constellation workshop through the recommendation of a friend, despite the fact that she knew nothing about what was going to happen there nor that she had great hope for a change. But she was curious and thought it wouldn’t hurt to go and might be an interesting workshop anyhow. When it was her turn she talked about the disease and on questioning she revealed the Psoriasis started after she moved to NZ. A representative in the constellation showed signs of great agony because of her leaving the home country, but she didn’t know who that could be until I asked her specifically: who has loved you so much that he or she suffered greatly when you left the country and eventually died of a broken heart? She was surprised and answered that she had to leave her beloved dog behind with people who didn’t really looked after him well and in the end he finally died there. After reconciliation with her dog in the family constellation and being able to go through the emotion of guilt for leaving him behind he found peace and she experienced a burden was falling from her. For 6 months nothing changed so she thought it was just another futile attempt to get rid of the Psoriasis when during the following 4 weeks her skin healed completely, leaving only scars behind. This came as no surprise to me: it takes up to 6 months after a family constellation for the shift in energy to manifest in the physical body.
Another case where both, Arthritis and Dermatitis were present, has come up in a family constellation ViRTUAL workshop: the client had Dermatitis since birth and recently Arthritis in his knees. When both, the Dermatitis and the Arthritis has been represented by workshop participants, it became obvious that the client was entangled with one of the diseases and the chosen representative felt a great deal of suppressed guilt, this was expressed with excessive stamping and shouting. The representative for the other disease tried to hide feelings of shame under a mask of happiness and laughter. We were looking at a victim/perpetrator dynamic in the family system of the client which was caused generations ago and unsolved to this day. The family soul is sending a descendent (the client) a message as the diseases, to make sure this imbalance is coming to light and be healed by the movement of the souls towards love and unity. The constellation ended with both, the Arthritis and Dermatitis feeling tired and wanting to go. Once the guilt and shame has been acknowledged and expressed the entanglement is lifted, the deed is done and the symptoms (the diseases) can go.
These two constellations reminded me of a much earlier case, many years ago, where a Psoriasis was the symptom as well and so severe to a point that the client often couldn’t walk any more: the skin under the feet and on the palms of hands was literally gone. She tried what the medicine world had to offer but they could only make her walk again but the skin remained damaged and itchy, the Psoriasis was still there. The client gave up to ever being healed from this until a friend of her who was just training in systemic coaching facilitated a family constellation in a one-on-one session with her as part of her training. Here it showed that she was entangled with her mother who had an ex-partner no-one knew about, whom she left to marry the father of the client with the unrecognised feeling of guilt at leaving the other man behind. Months after the constellation the psoriasis started to go away, but the client never made the connection between the family constellation and the healing until years later when she started a training in systemic coaching and family constellating as well and realised it was the family constellation that had healed her from the Psoriasis exactly 6 months afterwards.
Autoimmune diseases, especially those which are so visible on the skin, can be an expression of oppressed guilt, and can be caused in one’s own life or in the life of an ancestor. Family Constellations are a wonderful tool to make this visible by acknowledging what is and offering the healing movement towards unity and love.